As an individual who is bound to a wheelchair due to Cerebral Palsy, I often wonder if it will ever be possible for find “Mr. Right” despite the tender loving care I require due to my disability. I will be honest with you and say that the dating arena has never been that welcoming to me. As a 30 year old woman, I have only had one real boyfriend. Using my age as a factor for this debate, I cannot help but to turn to my disability and think that my “lack” of abilities has something to do with my void in the relationship department.
I know it may seem silly to you all, but I cannot help but assume that some males may be intimidated by my disability, afraid to ask what I can and cannot do and also assuming that I am “fragile” in a sense, maybe both physically and emotionally. While both of those statements may be proven to a certain extent, I am just like everyone else in the sense that if you hurt me, I can say ouch! Although the reluctance is frustrating, I can certainly understand. Everyone is somewhat apprehensive about things that may arise in life that they don’t understand, and that’s OK. Obstacles, are as a matter of fact difficult to navigate and understand, and we all look for a way out of something when we are afraid or cannot quite wrap our heads around something.
I am one of the most understanding and laid back people you will ever meet, but I would like to say that I am an open book when it comes to my Cerebral Palsy. I am willing to teach those that may not be as informed as others and possibly those who have been misinformed. After all, there are an abundance of misconceptions about Cerebral Palsy. I have seen and even befriended some people that are perhaps not as vocal about their condition, but I can honestly say it has made me who I am today, and without it, I would be lacking my tremendous courage and strength as well as my lust for life!
Yes, I may need some assistance performing tasks of daily living, but I put my shoes on both feet just like you do, I eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner with a fork and spoon just like you do. The only difference is that I may require a helping hand doing things which many people deem simple and meticulous. I have an overflowing amount of love and compassion in my heart that I am eager to share with another person, I long for someone to understand and more importantly put up with all of my funky quirks and mood swings (lord knows we all have our flaws, and mood swings are definitely one of mine!)
I have not found “Mr. Right” yet. He has not come to me, but I am willing to wait in the wings, have patience, and keep holding on. For all we know, I could very well be made to be an independent woman, and if I am, that’s fine, too. However, I will continue to wait until “Mr Right”, comes along and sweeps me out of my chair.
So, now that all of that has been said, my question to you is this: Would you date a person with a disability? The disability does not have to be physical in nature like mine; it can even be a mental one. Why or why not? Do you think your decision would provide mutual understanding? Opinions are encouraged and certainly welcomed! Don’t worry, I won’t get offended if your answer is no. I simply want honesty. So, please, let’s hear your voices!